Jeff Kromrey, 69, plans to sit down with his daughter during her next visit to share access to his online accounts, ensuring she can manage his affairs in case of an unexpected health crisis.
Similarly, Gayle Williams-Brett, 69, is determined to organize her financial information, a task she’s delayed for months. Meanwhile, Michael Davis, 71, intends to draft a living will and designate a close friend as his healthcare surrogate and estate executor.
These seniors are taking proactive steps inspired by Aging Alone Together, a course offered by Dorot, a New York City social services agency designed specifically for “solo agers”—individuals aging without the support of a spouse, partner, or adult children.
For years, resources for this growing demographic were scarce. Now, a range of options has emerged, including Facebook groups, conferences, webinars, and books dedicated to helping solo agers connect, prevent isolation, and prepare for potential health or mobility challenges.
“Older adults without family support must be intentional about creating support systems and making plans,” said Ailene Gerhardt, a Boston-based patient advocate and founder of the Navigating Solo Network.
According to a recent AARP survey, 10% of Americans aged 50 and older live alone without children, while an additional 11% are estranged from their children, and 13% doubt their children can or will help manage their healthcare or finances.
The prospect of planning for the future alone can feel overwhelming. Gerhardt emphasized the importance of group planning, which Dorot’s Aging Alone Together course incorporates. Available nationwide online for free and in-person in New York City, the program has engaged over 1,000 participants since its 2021 launch. Dorot is also collaborating with partners to expand its reach.
The six-week course includes 90-minute interactive sessions addressing key topics like building support networks, housing options, advance care directives, and organizing financial and legal matters. The program aims to help participants clarify priorities, overcome fear, and take actionable steps toward securing their futures.
“We want to foster a sense of community and emphasize that solo aging doesn’t mean aging alone,” said Claire Nisen, a Dorot program staffer.
This message struck a chord with Williams-Brett, who lives in Brooklyn with her 97-year-old mother, whom she cares for full-time. Facing mounting responsibilities—decluttering her home, managing finances, and safeguarding her mother’s health—Williams-Brett often felt overwhelmed.
Through the course, she found reassurance in hearing others voice similar struggles. “I realized we all have challenges,” she said. “There’s nothing to be ashamed of.”
Kromrey, a Tampa resident and widower of nine years, is in good health and close with his adult daughter, who will serve as his decision-maker if needed. He admitted the course helped him confront his own denial about potential health crises. Over Thanksgiving, he plans to walk his daughter through his financial systems and share his account passwords to ensure a seamless transition should the unexpected occur.
Davis, an artist living alone in Manhattan, is using the program to combat isolation. Arthritis has limited his ability to paint, leaving him feeling disconnected from others. While he has a solid foundation—a rent-regulated apartment with an elevator and long-term care insurance—he recognizes the importance of social engagement.
“There are days when I don’t talk to anyone,” Davis shared. “Aging Alone Together has helped me focus on the present and find new connections.”
Programs like Aging Alone Together highlight the importance of planning and community for solo agers, ensuring they face the future with confidence and support.
Original Blog: https://www.homecaremag.com/aging-place-home-health-hospice/resources-are-expanding-older-adults-their-own
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